Gottman Method Therapy

Are you ready to enhance your relationship with science-backed techniques?

Explore The Gottman Method, a proven approach designed to help you and your partner reduce conflict, improve communication, and nurture a deeper sense of intimacy. As a Gottman-trained counselor, I am here to guide you on this transformative journey, where we will explore your unique relationship and address your concerns through a thoughtful and comprehensive 3-step assessment process.

Step 1

Understanding Your Relationship History

Our first step together is to meet as a couple, where I will gently explore the intricacies of your relationship history. By gaining insight into your shared experiences, we can lay a solid foundation for our work ahead.

Step 2

Embracing Individual Perspectives

Next, I will meet with each of you individually for a half-session. This dedicated time allows me to understand your personal needs, desires, and aspirations. Your individual voices matter, and they play a crucial role in shaping our therapeutic approach.

Step 3

Measuring Success and Distress

To gain a deeper understanding of your relationship’s dynamics, both partners will complete an online questionnaire from the renowned Gottman Institute. This assessment, which measures key predictors of relationship success and distress, provides valuable insights that inform our treatment plan.

Insights and Guidance: Our Feedback Session

Once the assessment phase is complete, we will come together for a feedback session. Here, I will share valuable insights into your relationship dynamics and outline our treatment plan to address your concerns. We will explore “The Sound Relationship House” assessment in its entirety, discussing specific changes you can make to cultivate a healthier and more fulfilling relationship. This personalized approach saves you time in sessions while ensuring targeted and effective treatment.

Healing and Rebuilding Trust: The Treatment Phase

The treatment phase focuses on healing wounds, especially those resulting from past or recent betrayals. Drawing on the Gottman Method, I will coach you through difficult conversations, helping you find forgiveness and reestablish trust. Trust and commitment are the cornerstones of a strong relationship, and we will employ the “Aftermath of a Fight” technique to process regrettable incidents and foster growth.

Building Essential Skills and Strategies

Our journey together will also involve learning essential skills and strategies for building friendship, fostering fondness, cultivating admiration, and enhancing communication. We will work together to reduce destructive patterns, such as Criticism, Defensiveness, Contempt, and Stonewalling. In the event that these Four Horsemen make an appearance, you will be equipped with effective tools to address and resolve conflicts constructively.

Addressing Unsolvable Problems

Gottman's research discovered that a significant portion of relationship issues (approximately 79%) stem from differences in personality, temperament, and upbringing. We will dedicate time to learning how to engage in productive dialogue about these unsolvable problems. Through compromise and open communication, we will strive to prevent conflicts from becoming gridlocked. Our goal is not to eliminate conflict entirely, but rather to embrace the power of influence, make room for differences, and maintain a positive perspective.

Embracing Cultural Differences

John Gottman reminds us that every couple is a “multicultural” couple, regardless of their backgrounds. We all come from unique family cultures. As we embark on this journey together, we will celebrate the joy of creating your own home and relationship culture. I will guide you in intentionally shaping your shared dreams and establishing meaningful rituals. Whether it’s how you celebrate holidays, birthdays, anniversaries, or even how you begin and end your day, these small but significant practices can profoundly impact your connection.

What to Expect from the Gottman Method

Engaging with the Gottman Method requires effort and dedication, but the rewards are immeasurable. Couples who wholeheartedly commit to this evidence-based approach often experience a deepened emotional connection, a renewed sense of purpose, and a strengthened bond of love, trust, and friendship.

Take the first step toward a more fulfilling relationship today. Let the Gottman Method guide you on a transformative journey towards lasting love and happiness.